We're all, as individuals and as a society, still learning. When I came out no one threw stones and no one tried to convert me. Allen Bennett became the first openly gay rabbi in the United States in It is not the fact that Yiddish words like meshuge and zimmis and chassah fall plentifully into the conversation. There are no application forms and no qualification requirements.
Jewish law holds that no hedonistic ethic, even if called "love", can justify the morality of homosexuality any more than it can legitimize adultery or incesthowever genuinely such acts may be performed out of love and by mutual consent. For the most part, however, there has been silence on this score from the pulpit. It would have sounded like an oxymoron. They honestly regard themselves as holy victims.
For various reasons, no one has the will to make marriage mandatory for sexual partners by means of custom, law, or force.